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February 23, 2007

You’ve got to find what you love

Filed under: percikan pemikiran — delango @ 6:27 am

This is the text of the Commencement address by Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple Computer and of Pixar Animation Studios, delivered on June 12, 2005.

I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I’ve ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That’s it. No big deal. Just three stories.

The first story is about connecting the dots.

I dropped out of Reed College after the first 6 months, but then stayed around as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really quit. So why did I drop out?

It started before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: “We have an unexpected baby boy; do you want him?” They said: “Of course.” My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college.

And 17 years later I did go to college. But I naively chose a college that was almost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class parents’ savings were being spent on my college tuition. After six months, I couldn’t see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me figure it out. And here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out OK. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back it was one of the best decisions I ever made. The minute I dropped out I could stop taking the required classes that didn’t interest me, and begin dropping in on the ones that looked interesting.

It wasn’t all romantic. I didn’t have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor in friends’ rooms, I returned coke bottles for the 5¢ deposits to buy food with, and I would walk the 7 miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on. Let me give you one example:

Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster, every label on every drawer, was beautifully hand calligraphed. Because I had dropped out and didn’t have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can’t capture, and I found it fascinating.

None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, its likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.

Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.

My second story is about love and loss.

I was lucky — I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz and I started Apple in my parents garage when I was 20. We worked hard, and in 10 years Apple had grown from just the two of us in a garage into a $2 billion company with over 4000 employees. We had just released our finest creation — the Macintosh — a year earlier, and I had just turned 30. And then I got fired. How can you get fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grew we hired someone who I thought was very talented to run the company with me, and for the first year or so things went well. But then our visions of the future began to diverge and eventually we had a falling out. When we did, our Board of Directors sided with him. So at 30 I was out. And very publicly out. What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating.

I really didn’t know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let the previous generation of entrepreneurs down – that I had dropped the baton as it was being passed to me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologize for screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure, and I even thought about running away from the valley. But something slowly began to dawn on me — I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over.

I didn’t see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.

During the next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another company named Pixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife. Pixar went on to create the worlds first computer animated feature film, Toy Story, and is now the most successful animation studio in the world. In a remarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT, I returned to Apple, and the technology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of Apple’s current renaissance. And Laurene and I have a wonderful family together.

I’m pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn’t been fired from Apple. It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith. I’m convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle.

My third story is about death.

When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: “If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you’ll most certainly be right.” It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?” And whenever the answer has been “No” for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.

Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

About a year ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a scan at 7:30 in the morning, and it clearly showed a tumor on my pancreas. I didn’t even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost certainly a type of cancer that is incurable, and that I should expect to live no longer than three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get my affairs in order, which is doctor’s code for prepare to die. It means to try to tell your kids everything you thought you’d have the next 10 years to tell them in just a few months. It means to make sure everything is buttoned up so that it will be as easy as possible for your family. It means to say your goodbyes.

I lived with that diagnosis all day. Later that evening I had a biopsy, where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach and into my intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few cells from the tumor. I was sedated, but my wife, who was there, told me that when they viewed the cells under a microscope the doctors started crying because it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer that is curable with surgery. I had the surgery and I’m fine now.

This was the closest I’ve been to facing death, and I hope its the closest I get for a few more decades. Having lived through it, I can now say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful but purely intellectual concept:

No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

When I was young, there was an amazing publication called The Whole Earth Catalog, which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was created by a fellow named Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park, and he brought it to life with his poetic touch. This was in the late 1960’s, before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with typewriters, scissors, and polaroid cameras. It was sort of like Google in paperback form, 35 years before Google came along: it was idealistic, and overflowing with neat tools and great notions.

Stewart and his team put out several issues of The Whole Earth Catalog, and then when it had run its course, they put out a final issue. It was the mid-1970s, and I was your age. On the back cover of their final issue was a photograph of an early morning country road, the kind you might find yourself hitchhiking on if you were so adventurous. Beneath it were the words: “Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.” It was their farewell message as they signed off. Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish. And I have always wished that for myself. And now, as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you.

Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.

Thank you all very much.

*taken from http://news-service.stanford.edu/news/2005/june15/jobs-061505

October 26, 2006

d*mn nameserver!

Filed under: percikan teknologi — delango @ 8:13 am

For such a unix user, ssh is a commonly used application which provide some kind of remote access to some servers. I’ve used it since my first experienced using unix based OS computer. And from day on, I’ve never faced any serious problems while using it.

But late at yesterday’s nite, this stuff was starting disturbing me. I’ve just reconfigured one of my experimental server, an old hp-compaq proliant ML370 series running Debian operating system. Evertyhing runs normally before. It was in a NAT networks, but later I would like to move it directly in to my campus networks using public IP. And the problem arises right after I change its IP parameters and restart the machine. It’s no longer accessible by remote access. The machine is alive, ping results do well.

But wait a minute, there’re some more anomalies I found. I suddenly can log in to the machine using the same ssh method! *what the…* For not wasting time, I reconfigure sshd server configuration file, check all networks configuration files too. But suddenly my connection was stopped. *now what…* I try to reconnect; insert the username, and the server responses by gives challenge for related password. I wrote down the password, but the machine rejected it, said “wrong password..” *hello…???* I retried three times, but no positive result I got.

Then, I walk to the server room, log in to it directly. I recheck all network configuration once more, to make sure that there’s no such thing I’ve missed. But everything seems okay. I do ssh connection to another server from this machine, passed. And do ssh again from that machine back to the one that arising problems, it also passed. Hmmm…, how weird. I look at the clock, it’s already 23.40. D*mn!

And the next 2 hours were filled with google-related activity. :D It feels like I was in my daily works in the office, do some kind of Proof of Concept, PoC. And the sub theme is Root Cause Analysis. But different from the ordinary, this session was held in sleepy mode. :P *well, how can I show my sleepy mode face in front of my manager in daily works?*

In my point of view, the main problem is (by analyse syslog) that the machine periodically changes it DSA key. It’s weird since one machine with one IP address (and related mac address) would only generate one DSA key. This key would be accept by the opponent (in this case ssh client) and saved. It is describe more clearly while using debug option in ssh connection. My early asumption is that it related to some ssh configuration or firewall issue.

After randomly followed some instructions and methods from some webs, finally I decided to temporarily finished my works. Enough for tonight, I thought. Let’s bring them all to my dreams, and hope by tomorrow morning when I wake up, I’ve got some enlightment… *silly thought* :P

In fact, even wake up late in the morning didn’t make any enlightment nor improvement. :P With my typical lazy move, I woke up, check my e-mail first, and during that, I try to arrange my time. Beside of this, I have to do another software test related to my company job works. Take a bath for a while and after that, I start to continue my pending works yesterday.

Another two hours was spent, until I realized one thing (that would be the ultimate hint). I did nslookup , and get shocked after read the result. My server IP’s has two different host name listed in the DNS server. Well, no wonder it could happened. One IP is registered to two different name and different machine. That’s the only reason why the DSA key periodically changes. In one time, the first machine is taking action. But in the other time,the other machine is. By this, I also state that it is the main reason why in the syslog, it sounds something related to ip_spoofing. Yeah… what else?

I could not remember how this silly thing can occur. I mean, there’re two host name listed in the nameserver for a same IP? Well.., my the DNS admin did some fault. After change the host’s IP address, ssh service then run normally. I also report this situation to the DNS admin, one of my campus colleague, and ask him to reconfigure the list. ;)

Anyway, it’s my first writing about some technical stuff. :D

July 9, 2006

take a deep breath

Filed under: percikan jiwa — delango @ 9:42 am

when I take a glance
and look back to my past
me, myself, have realized
sometimes goodmemories can kill me…

May 20, 2006

One flaw in women

Filed under: percikan permenungan — delango @ 3:24 am

By the time the Lord made woman, He was into his sixth day of working overtime. An angel appeared and said, “Why are you spending so much time on this one, Lord?” And the Lord answered, “Have you seen my spec sheet on her? She has to be completely washable, but notplastic, have over 200 movable parts, all replaceable, able to run on Diet Coke and leftovers, have a lap that can hold four childrenat one time, have a kiss that can cure anything from a scraped knee to a broken heart – and she will do everything with only two hands.”

The angel was astounded at the requirements. “Only two hands!? No way!And that’s just on the standard model? That’s too much work for one day. Wait until tomorrow to finish.” But I won’t,” the Lord protested. “I am so close to finishing this creation that is so close to my ownheart. She already heals herself when she is sick AND can work 18 hour days.”The angel moved closer and touched the woman. “But you have made her so soft, Lord!” “She is soft,” the Lord agreed, “but I have also made her tough.You have no idea what she can endure or accomplish.” “Will she be able to think?”, asked the angel. The Lord replied, “Not only willshe be able to think, she will be able to reason and negotiate.”
The angel then noticed something and reaching out, touched the woman’s cheek. “Oops, it looks like you have a leak in this model. I told you that you were trying to put too much into this one.” That’s not a leak,” The Lord corrected, “that’s a tear!” “What’s the tearfor?” the angel asked. The Lord said, “The tear is her way of expressing her joy, Her sorrow, her pain, her disappointment, her love,her loneliness, her grief and her pride.” The angel was impressed. “You are a genius, Lord. You thought of everything! Woman is truly amazing.”And she is! Women have strengths that amaze men. They bear hardships and they carry burdens, but they hold happiness, love and joy.They smile when they want to scream. They sing when they want to cry. They cry when they are happy and laugh when they are nervous.
They fight for what they believe in. They stand up to injustice. They don’t take “No” for an answer when they believe there is a better solution. They go without so their family can have. They love unconditionally. They cry when theirchildren excel . Their hearts break and they grieve at the loss of a family member, or a friend, or even someone they don’t know well;yet they are strong when they think there is no strength left. They know that a hug and a kiss can help heal a broken heart.
Women come in all shapes, sizes and colors. They’ll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you to show how much they care about you. The heart of a woman is what makes the world keep turning. They bring joy, hope and love. They have compassion and ideals. They give moralsupport to their family and friends. Women have vital things to say and everything to give. However, If There Is One Flaw In Women itis that they forget their Worth.
Remind a woman you know just how amazing God made them to be!

May 4, 2006

apa sih ini ?

Filed under: percikan permenungan — delango @ 5:16 am
You Should Get a PhD in Liberal Arts (like political science, literature, or philosophy)
You’re a great thinker and a true philosopher.
You’d make a talented professor or writer.

What Advanced Degree Should You Get?

April 4, 2006

saya suka hujan, tapi tidak hujan yang ini…

Filed under: percikan jiwa — delango @ 10:16 pm

Saya suka hujan. Sejak dulu. Sore setelah hujan mencuci bumi adalah momen terbaik yang membawa perasaan bahagia. Saya suka hujan; hujan yang turun kecil-kecil saja. Hujan besar kerap membuat saya takut. Hujan besar tengah malam biasanya berujung pada sebuah kecemasan.

Saya suka hujan. Sama seperti hujan kecil-kecil yang turun malam ini. Biasanya saya melongokkan kepala keluar jendela. Mengambil nafas panjang-panjang, memuaskan rongga hidung yang membaui wangi tanah yang khas sehabis hujan.

Saya suka hujan. Tapi tidak hujan malam ini. Baru saja saya menutup telepon, mengakhiri pembicaran dengan ibu saya, sebelum akhirnya saya kembali ke posisi favorit saya ketika membaui hujan.

Sepeninggal bapak, ibu saya kini tinggal bertiga dengan adik yang paling kecil. Dengan membujuk-bujuk, seorang keponakannya akhirnya mau juga ikut tinggal di rumah. Bertigalah mereka mendiami rumah dengan halaman yang cukup luas itu.

Sepeninggal bapak, ibu saya juga mesti harus menyelesaikan beberapa tetek bengek, terutama tunggakan biaya pengobatan bapak selama koma. Cukup besar bila dibandingkan dengan pendapatannya sebagai guru. Pihak yang menabrak bapak telah mengajukan perdamaian; berjanji akan membayarkan sejumlah uang untuk membantu tunggakan rumah sakit. Namun keluarga kami dan mereka belum sepakat mengenai besar uang 'pertanggungan' yang akan mereka bayarkan.

Dan itulah topik pembicaraan telepon yang singkat tadi. Ibu mengungkapkan kekecewaannya pada proses 'perdamaian' ini.

Saya cuma bisa menarik napas panjang berkali-kali. Kecewa dengan hal ini, tentu saja. Tapi yang lebih menohok adalah kenyataan bahwa ternyata setelah kehilangan suami tercintanya, ibu masih harus dipusingkan oleh hal-hal seperti ini. Seharusnya ibu bisa lebih berpusat pada usahanya menenangkan diri. Tak perlu dia harus berpusing-pusing lagi. Sudah cukuplah beban yang ada padanya…

Saya juga kecewa pada diri saya sendiri. Tak bisa berbuat sesuatu apa pun.

Di akhir pembicaraan, ibu kembali berpesan "Abang juga harus kuat ya. Banyak-banyaklah berdoa. Ingat semua pesan-pesan yang pernah Bapak beri. Lanjutkan cita-cita bapak yang diamanatkan ke abang. Kalau abang berhasil, bapak pun pasti senang di sana…."

Saya hanya terdiam setelah menutup telepon. Di tengah begitu besarnya beban yang ada padanya, ibu saya tetap tak lupa memperhatikan anaknya ini.

Dan saya cukup lama terdiam melongokkan kepala ke luar jendela. Hanya diam, memandangi rintik-rintik hujan yang turun perlahan mengiris-iris udara malam yang makin dingin. Sambil sesekali menghela napas panjang.

Saya akhiri lamunan tadi dengan sekali lagi menghela napas panjang, sangat panjang, sambil menyeka butir-butir air mata yang turun satu-satu.

Saya suka hujan; hujan yang turun kecil-kecil saja. Hujan besar kerap membuat saya takut. Hujan besar tengah malam biasanya berujung pada sebuah kecemasan.

Saya suka hujan. Tapi tidak hujan yang ini…

March 25, 2006

Bapak saya

Filed under: percikan jiwa — delango @ 1:40 am

Marsirang ma hape, O amang na burju
Di jou Tuhanta ho amang, tu hasonangan i

Ternyata kita harus berpisah, O Bapakku yang baik
Dipanggil Tuhan engkau, ke tempat yang berbahagia itu

Amangku na burju, na lambok malilung
Sahat ma ho tu surgo i, tu hasonangan i

Bapakku yang baik, yang lembut hati
Sampailah engkau ke surga, ke tempat yang berbahagia itu

Amang na burju, na uli lagu
Tulus ma tu surgoi, sonang ma ho disi

Bapakku yang baik, yang bersuara merdu
Muluslah jalanmu ke surga, berbahagialah disana

Di tingki ngolumi, godang si taononmi
Di tangiang hon ho sude hami pinomparmon

Di masa hidupmu, amat banyak penderitaanmu
Namun tetap engkau doakan kami semua keturunanmu

Amang na burju, na uli lagu
Poda na nilehonmi hutiop ma tong-tong

Bapakku yang baik, yang bersuara merdu
Nasihat yang engkau berikan, akan kupegang selalu

Di tingki ngolumi, godang do salangki
Tuhanta ma manesai mangapul roha i

Di masa hidupmu, banyak kesalahanku
Kiranya Tuhanlah yang menghapusnya, menghibur hatimu

Amang na burju, na uli lagu
Poda na nilehonmi, hutiop ma tutu

Bapakku yang baik, yang bersuara merdu
Nasihat yang engkau berikan, akan kupegang selalu

Di tingki ngolumi godang do podami
Di tangiang hon ho sude hami pinomparmon

Di masa hidupmu amat banyak nasihat yang engkau berikan
Semoga engkau doakan semua kami keturunanmu

Amana na burju, nauli lagu
Poda na ni lehon mi, hutiop ma tutu

Bapakku yang baik, yang bersuara merdu
Nasihat yang engkau berikan, akan kupegang selalu

Naborhat nama ho, O amang na burju
Tadingkononmu ma hape sude na hamion

Pergilah engkau sekarang, o bapakku yang baik
Dan engkau tinggalkanlah kami semua

Sai Tuhanta ma na mangapuli i
Sa sude ala hamion na tinadingkonmon

Semoga kiranya Tuhanlah yang menghibur
Kami semua yang engkau tinggalkan

In Memoriam : Klinius K Simalango
Tubu : 15 Juli 1952
Monding : 10 Maret 2006

March 24, 2006

little wing

Filed under: percikan jiwa — delango @ 9:11 pm

Well she's walking through the clouds
With a circus mind that's running round
Butterflies and zebras
And moonbeams and fairy tales
That's all she ever thinks about
Riding with the wind

When I'm sad, she comes to me
With a thousand smiles, she gives to me free
It's alright she says it's alright
Take anything you want from me,
anything…

Fly on little wing
Yeah, little wing…

February 13, 2006

tiket menuju kebahagiaan, adakah ?

Filed under: percikan pemikiran — delango @ 7:38 am

Mengapa banyak di antara kita merasa tidak bahagia? Penyebabnya, kita lebih banyak tahu tentang: ”apa yang harus kita lakukan untuk menjadi orang yang berbahagia” daripada tahu tentang: ”mengapa kita tidak bahagia”.

Perasaan tidak bahagia sebenarnya adalah penyakit. Hal itu adalah bentuk dari upaya meracuni diri sendiri. Mari kita rawat penyakit itu dengan cara yang terjangkau. Kita cermati gejala penyakit tersebut dan kita hancurkan gejala itu.

Di bawah ini terdaftar hal-hal yang biasanya merupakan gejala yang meracuni kebahagiaan kita beserta antibodi yang dapat menghancurkan gejala penyakit ketidakbahagiaan kita.

Racun pertama: Menghindar

Gejalanya, lari dari kenyataan, mengabaikan tanggung jawab, padahal dengan melarikan diri dari kenyataan kita hanya akan mendapat kebahagiaan semu yang berlangsung sesaat.

Antibodinya: Realitas.

Cara: Berhentilah menipu diri. Jangan terlalu serius dalam menghadapi masalah karena rumah sakit jiwa sudah dipenuhi pasien yang selalu mengikuti kesedihannya dan merasa lingkungannya menjadi sumber frustrasi. Jadi, selesaikan setiap masalah yang dihadapi secara tuntas dan yakinilah bahwa segala sesuatu yang terbaik selalu harus diupayakan dengan keras.

Racun kedua: Ketakutan

Gejalanya, tidak yakin diri, tegang, cemas yang antara lain bisa disebabkan kesulitan keuangan, konflik perkawinan, kesulitan seksual.

Antibodinya: Keberanian.

Cara: Hindari menjadi sosok yang bergantung pada kecemasan. Ingatlah 99 persen hal yang kita cemaskan tidak pernah terjadi. Keberanian adalah pertahanan diri paling ampuh. Gunakan analisis intelektual dan carilah solusi masalah melalui sikap mental yang benar. Keberanian merupakan proses reedukasi. Jadi, jangan segan mencari bantuan dari ahlinya, seperti psikiater atau psikolog.

Racun ketiga: Egoistis

Nyinyir, materialistis, agresif, lebih suka meminta daripada memberi.

Antibodinya: Bersikap sosial.

Cara: Jangan mengeksploitasi teman. Kebahagiaan akan diperoleh apabila kita dapat menolong orang lain. Perlu diketahui orang yang tidak mengharapkan apa pun dari orang lain adalah orang yang tidak pernah merasa dikecewakan.

Racun keempat: Stagnasi

Gejalanya berhenti di satu fase, membuat diri kita merasa jenuh, bosan, dan tidak bahagia.

Antibodinya: Ambisi.

Cara: Teruslah bertumbuh, artinya kita terus berambisi di masa depan kita. Kita akan menemukan kebahagiaan dalam gairah saat meraih ambisi kita tersebut.

Racun kelima: Rasa rendah diri

Gejala: Kehilangan keyakinan diri dan kepercayaan diri serta merasa tidak memiliki kemampuan bersaing.

Antibodi: Keyakinan diri.

Cara: Seseorang tidak akan menang bila sebelum berperang yakin dirinya akan kalah. Bila kita yakin akan kemampuan kita, sebenarnya kita sudah mendapatkan separuh dari target yang ingin kita raih. Jadi, sukses berawal pada saat kita yakin bahwa kita mampu mencapainya.

Racun keenam: Narsistik

Gejala: Kompleks superioritas, terlampau sombong, kebanggaan diri palsu.

Antibodi: Rendah hati.

Cara: Orang yang sombong akan dengan mudah kehilangan teman, karena tanpa kehadiran teman, kita tidak akan berbahagia. Hindari sikap ” sok tahu”. Dengan rendah hati, kita akan dengan sendirinya mau mendengar orang lain sehingga peluang 50 persen sukses sudah kita raih.

Racun ketujuh: Mengasihani diri

Gejala: Kebiasaan menarik perhatian, suasana hati yang dominan, murung, menghunjam diri, merasa menjadi orang termalang di dunia.

Antibodi: Sublimasi.

Cara: Jangan membuat diri menjadi neurotik, terpaku pada diri sendiri. Lupakan masalah diri dan hindari untuk berperilaku sentimental dan terobsesi terhadap ketergantungan kepada orang lain.

Racun kedelapan: Sikap bermalas-malasan

Gejala: Apatis, jenuh berlanjut, melamun, dan menghabiskan waktu dengan cara tidak produktif, merasa kesepian.

Antibodi: Kerja.

Cara: Buatlah diri kita untuk selalu mengikuti jadwal kerja yang sudah kita rencanakan sebelumnya dengan cara aktif bekerja. Hindari kecenderungan untuk membuat keberadaan kita menjadi tidak berarti dan mengeluh tanpa henti.

Racun kesembilan: Sikap tidak toleran

Gejala: Pikiran picik, kebencian rasial yang picik, angkuh, antagonisme terhadap agama tertentu, prasangka religius.

Antibodi: Kontrol diri.

Cara: Tenangkan emosi kita melalui seni mengontrol diri. Amati mereka secara intelektual. Tingkatkan kadar toleransi kita. Ingat bahwa dunia diciptakan dan tercipta dari keberagaman kultur dan agama.

Racun kesepuluh: Kebencian

Gejala: Keinginan balas dendam, kejam, bengis.

Antibodi: Cinta kasih.

Cara: Hilangkan rasa benci. Belajar memaafkan dan melupakan. Kebencian merupakan salah satu emosi negatif yang menjadi dasar dari rasa ketidakbahagiaan. Orang yang memiliki rasa benci biasanya juga membenci dirinya sendiri karena membenci orang lain. Satu-satunya yang dapat melenyapkan rasa benci adalah cinta. Cinta kasih merupakan kekuatan hakiki yang dapat dimiliki setiap orang.

Mari, simpanlah paket tiket untuk melawan perasaan tidak bahagia dan mengaculah pada paket tiket ini saat kita sedang mengalami rasa depresi dan tidak bahagia. Gunakan sebagai sarana pertolongan pertama saat kita sedang berada dalam kondisi mental gawat darurat demi terhindar dari ketidakbahagiaan berlanjut pada masa mendatang.

January 18, 2006

[kali ini] [masih] tentang cinta

Filed under: percikan jiwa — delango @ 12:50 pm

Learn to love the people who are with you at present.
Forget the people in the past and thank them for hurting you.

Love is not for beauty color of skin,
but for a heart that is loyal within.
For beauty fades and the skin would grow old,
but a heart that is loyal,
will never turn cold.

If someone hurts you, betrays you or break your heart,
forgive them for they have helped you learn about trust,
and the importance of being cautios to whom you open your heart.

A love is easy to feel,
so hard to explain,
so easy to get,
so hard to let go,
so easy to spell,
so hard to define.

And yet everyone is still taking the risk.
That’s love!

We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird and
when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours,
we join up with them and fall in love in mutual weirdness
and call it LOVE!

Never be afraid to fall in love.
It may hurt a lot, it may gives aches and pain,
but if you don’t follow your heart,
in the end you will cry even more
for not giving love a chance.

Don’t run ahead of God.
Let Him direct your steps.
He has plans and He has His time.
God’s clock is never one minute early nor one minute late.
It always strikes right on time.

If someone love you, love them back!
Not only because they love you,
but also because they are teaching you
to love and opening your heart,
and eyes to things you have never seen
or felt without them.

The past is meant to be used as a tool for the future.
Bad experience indeed make you bitter,
but the lesson learned should make you better.

When you find arms that will hold you at your weakest,
eyes that will see at your ugliest,
lips that will kiss you in both instances,
and a heart that will love you at your worst,
then you have found TRUE LOVE.

Someday, someone might come into your life
and love you in a way you always wanted.
If your someday was yesterday…, LEARN!
If your someday was tomorrow…, HOPE!
If your someday was today…, CHERISH!

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